... considering I'm dating on Reddit 😂

I know this is long, but I'm a complex being (and also I don't know how to shut up lol). Please read the whole post before messaging me! Also, heads up--if we talked before and stopped talking, don't be afraid to message me again! I ended up with a lot going on the past few months but I'm back on track now 😊

I expand on this below, but I'm also putting it here for anyone who might just skim the post and miss it: I'm NOT interested in talking to monogamous people, cishets, conservatives, or Christians. Thanks 💕

STRAIGHT MEN I AM TALKING TO YOU SPECIFICALLY. Do NOT message me unless you're ready to reassess your sexuality. I do not identify as a girl. Straight men cannot date me.

Let's get the 'about me' stuff out of the way:

I'm Winnie! I'm 28. I'm queer and genderqueer--AFAB if it matters--and my pronouns are they/she. I'm currently in western-central PA (in a very small town, so I'll be more specific if we start talking!) but I'm moving to Columbus, OH in a month!

I'm polyamorous and I live with my queerplatonic partner for stability and support, but I date solo. I also frequently utilize the relationship anarchy smorgasbord and a number of other RA principles to navigate my individual relationships, and I value my autonomy as well as each of my relationships' uniquely agreed-upon commitments I'm really big on open and thorough communication, healthy boundaries, consent, and personal autonomy. If those are foreign words to you, we're probably not a good match. I don't date monogamous people and I'm wary on people new to polyamory--and just a heads up that I will want to discuss polyamory, relationship expectations, personal boundaries, etc. very in-depth before getting involved with anyone.

I'm white, 5'7", and plus-size (and I often used the word fat as a neutral descriptor for myself and I'm trying to be unapologetic about it). I'm also neurodivergent, and I'm disabled/chronically ill--which means I sometimes face barriers and limitations in what I can do, but I always put 100% effort into everything. I sing, write occasionally, do some art, and take care of a lot of pets (4 dogs and 9 cats). I'm in fandoms like Marvel, Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, Supernatural, etc. I love musical theater and absolutely everything horror-related. Fall Out Boy has been my biggest special interest for almost 20 years, and unfortunately if you get to know me you're eventually going to have to listen to me infodump about Taylor Swift (I'm sorry in advance 😅). I've been told that I radiate positivity and have been described as "the friend group Fairy Gay-mother," "an enigma," and "unexpectedly terrifying, but make it cute," which I think nicely sums me up as a person.

So here's what I'm looking for:

I'm hoping to meet people in the 23-38 age range. Definitely no one under 23, as that's a big boundary for me. Preferably in a similar timezone, but that's not necessarily a dealbreaker! I'm okay with long-distance. I'm primarily queer4queer in my dating life, which means I typically only date other people who identity as queer in some way. Beyond not being monogamous/cishet, I really don't care too much about what you look like or your gender/sexuality or etc. If there's a connection, then I'm down for a relationship! However, please note that I'm a strong leftist and I'm agnostic with religious trauma, so I am 100% not interested in talking to conservatives or Christians.

I'd love to meet other polyamorous people who are potentially interested in a romantic sexual/kink relationship. I do have a lot of trauma from multiple abusive relationships in my past, but I've spent a lot of time on my own (and in therapy) working through that. My queerplatonic partner is lovely and I get a lot of things I need/want from our relationship, but I miss having partners to have romantic and physical intimacy with, and I'm in a place where I'm ready to explore that with people again.

Brief sex/kink note: I'm submissive and a little, so ideally I'd love to meet someone who is at leaat dominant. I also just enjoy sex and some aspects of kink without the dom/sub dynamic, so that's fine too. The catch is that I'm somewhere along the lines of demisexual and I really need to have a connection with someone before we get to the sex part 😅 But I'm very willing to discuss sex/kink early on to establish compatibility! There's a recent post on my profile in bdsmpersonals if you wanna know more details on the kink side of things before messaging me.

I would love to talk and get to know each other first, and establish if we'd be interested in each other/compatible/etc. If I haven't scared you away yet, send me a message with a bit about yourself and please include your favorite movie (Helps me to know you've read the whole post!) ❤️