Hiya, you can call me Dante! I’m 5’11,” 170 lbs, dual citizen 🇺🇸🇨🇦 currently in WNY near Buffalo, neurospicy (mild ADHD), and INFJ-A, ♉️♌️♎️, or if you’re a skeptic, we can debate either! Nothing is 100%, but if you look up or know what these signs/personalities are known for, I do largely fit in to the category, so quizzing me about it could be quite fun!

I hope you’re doing well as you’re reading this! I used to write out an even longer-winded spiel, but I figure why not keep it relatively short?—as if the title of this post intrigued you, then we probably have a lot in common! ☺️

If you want to get to know a bit about me

I blend in pretty well as “normal,” but I’m generally pretty stoic in real life, as sometimes I can’t think of the right words I want to say and other times I fumble over them, lol. It gets better when I’m comfortable around you. But I obviously don’t have that problem through text. 🙃

I’m usually down to chat with as much or as little frequency as you’d like. We all have busy or down days sometimes.

I get along great with

other neurospicy-types, goths, geeks, hippies, witches, punks—the open-minded social outcasts—you know who you are. 😉

Yes, like many in our community, I’m a go-with-the-flow-type, open-minded towards most things and kinks (test me), leftist, pansexual, but my allo attraction is more femme-leaning.

As for my relationship status

I’m currently unpartnered and hook ups are not exactly my cup of tea (I can’t easily separate emotional intimacy from sex). If we get along well, I’m in it for the long haul.

I label myself polyamorous not because I’m actively looking to have X amount of partners, but because I greatly believe in personal autonomy and don’t believe in limiting who other people fall in love with. Sometimes it just happens, and if I love someone, I wouldn’t want them to limit their life for me. I definitely respect those who decide on monogamy—this is just the way I view things.

Passions and hobbies are

tricky for me for sure. Due to my ADHD I have no big passions, I just dabble in a bit of everything and quickly get bored of it, haha. TV shows, music, movies, and sometimes books and games (or board games), and of course thinking and learning are the only “hobbies” I don’t seem to get bored of, but cooking can also be fun, especially if it’s a social activity.

Even though I’m a homebody, when I do go out, I like going to see the latest blockbuster, museums are cool, the occasional musical (never been to a concert, but I’d like to one day!), and throwing around a frisbee or taking a mild hike can be fun as well sometimes.

My personality is

chill like a cucumber. I believe there is a meaning and purpose to our lives, but I also think, like any open-world game, that these quests are optional and we can also just be here in life to fart around in the sandbox (better than in the pool).

I definitely value social life more than work life, but I enjoy work that makes a difference and leaves an impact.

When talking, you just might be able to tell that sometimes I like to be analytical and question things? If you like to be contrarian, especially in a playful or teasing manner, and can get me to think, you’re going to make me so happy. 😁

While I’m very optimistic, positive, and content with life right now (besides wanting a partner at some point, hence the need for this post!), supporting others in their mental health journeys has been a big theme in my life.

If you have a mental health issue, even a less common one, feel free to be completely open with me about it, I’d always understand—you can ask my friends (who are all neurodivergent in some way). 🙂

If you’re feeling down and need encouragement, I love listening to thoughts and feelings without judgment, while providing a different perspective or a sounding board when needed.

2 Truths, 1 Lie:

I made it to the district-wide Spelling Bee, my favorite movie is Godzilla 2000, I eat once a day 😉

To conclude, if this post is still up it means I’m still looking, and I’ve never ghosted anyone in my life once we start talking, so I’m not about to start now, haha.

Everyone is welcome to message, all (legal) ages, body types, identities, orientations, color, and no matter your polyam situation and dynamic.

I don’t have a preference for kitchen table or parallel styles, but my ideal retirement would be a polycule community with many tiny personal accommodations separated from each other for privacy and a central communal hub in the center. Doesn’t that sound nice? If not, that’s okay, too—it’s just a dream. 😌

If all of this that sounds good to you, then please don’t hesitate to reach out, I’m sure we’ll get along well!

I’m looking forward to hearing from ya!

Tell me where you are in life and something about yourself that people often get wrong, if you’d like. 😙

Cheers!

Dante