I'm making this post in the hopes of finding a partner to be my person. Whether it be just for the holidays or for a LTR. We don't have to be alone lol. Let's enjoy all that the holidays have to offer while we decide! Who doesn't want to enjoy hot cocoa while looking at Christmas lights with some light hand holding?

To start I have to disclose that I mainly like women/trans women but I also like a very very very specific type of guy and certain trans men as I'm partially bi. (It's off-putting I know but I'd rather be upfront about it) Chances are you aren't that type but feel free to ask if you are. (Didn’t want to offend anyone so I’d rather say in private) Just throwing that out there as it's a deal breaker for most women. Which why would it be? The number one reason I get is I'm going to cheat on them with a guy if we were to date. As if being bi has any bearing on cheating and not the persons character.

I'm a 35 year old guy living in the middle-ish of Texas looking for a female partner. Partner as in LTR. That's Long Term Relationship meaning boyfriend and girlfriend and holding hands type of stuff. You know, adult things? I had someone comment I was too vague so this is me being specific. I'm gonna be honest and kinda sad so bare with me.

So I spent last New Years alone (I realize it's towards the end of December and almost New years again but I have yet to spend a holiday with someone and I think the story is still somewhat relevant). Rang in last New Years in bed staring at the ceiling listening to fireworks go off into the night. The next day I cried randomly while browsing for a movie to watch on TV. At first I didn't know why as I'm not much of a crier/feelings person but I realized for the first time that I genuinely felt alone. I have no partner, no family that I speak to, no friends just acquaintances, really no one there for me. That's my own doing which took years to accomplish through me being closed off and just shutting people out, so I figure it might take just as long to fix. I'm not complaining as I got myself into this predicament. It's gonna sound dumb but I wanted a New Years kiss. I'd never had one and it seemed like a fun dumb silly thing to do. Eh maybe one day. Ok well back to my spiel. (I'm not depressed or anything or wanting attention) Some of my hobbies and interests are movies, reading, cooking, kayaking, records, video games, board games, snorkeling, bowling, swimming, escape rooms, puzzles and antiquing. I would describe myself as more goofy and dorky than nerdy. I like to go out and do fun things but also stay in and cuddle and relax. I guess it depends on my mood and the weather. I prefer the cold and would love to live in a state with actual seasons and snow. I'm 5'10, stocky AKA fat and open for adventure and new experiences.

I posted in this sub mainly looking for a throuple/triad. I've never been in one nor have I ever been in a poly relationship. I've been 100% monogamous. I'm merely curious about it. Apparently merely being curious about it disqualifies me from even talking to a fair amount of women. So be it. This doesn't mean I'm solely looking for anything poly related. Just means I'm open to exploring it. I'm mainly looking for a partner. If she happens to be poly then that's ok. If she's not then that's ok too. I keep getting people judging me for posting in the poly sub as if I'm only looking for that. I'm not. Just thought I'd clarify my experience and what I'm looking for in that regard.

Here are some random facts about me:

Some of my favorite bands are: The Black Keys, Kings of Leon, The Beatles, Creedence Clearwater Revival and The White Stripes.

Christmas is my favorite holiday, mainly because of the cold and festive activities. (Seriously let's go do some festive activities!)

I come from a medium-ish family.

I'm exceptionally patient but every person has a breaking point lol

I like traveling a lot. It's a basic thing that lots of people like. But I've found lots of people hate to leave their house, town or state so if that's you we probably might not be a good match. I also enjoy the mountains. But I don't like roughing it (give me that sweet AC in the summer). Hiking is so hard on my knees and I haven't done it in a while that if I were to I think about doing it I'd about die or twist a cankle.

I don't eat seafood, mushrooms, artichokes or pineapple on pizza (Who cares about this? Doesn't mean I won't go to a restaurant with you that has these things)

Never went to college as I'm horrible in a classroom setting and at taking tests. (I'm slowly bettering myself)

Have probably the most boring job imaginable (Ask me about it)

Overweight but trying to work on it and make better choices (Get healthier and lose weight together maybe?)

Non religious but no issue with what you believe. (If anything)

Looking into sterilization. If you are already maybe you can give me some info or tips?

My own red flags 🚩

I work too much and oftentimes can't talk.

I send selfies often. I'm a visual person and like receiving photos. Apparently it's a generational thing. Hopefully you think pictures are neat as well? Is it really that weird to want to see you and your life and show you mine?

I sometimes speedily become attached to people, not in a weird way, but if I like you and we have some kind of connection, I will enjoy talking to you and want to do it often.

I'm a very organized person and will plan out pretty much anything from a vacation to a road trip to a birthday. This makes being with a go with the flow type of person hard at times I've learned but still very much doable.

Due to childhood trauma I'm secretive which can be annoying.

MY own "HELL YES" 🏁

I know how to cook.

I will always drive if you want. (Within reason)

Great at escape rooms and jigsaw puzzles.

Can read a map and follow directions.

Decent at reading backwards upside down writing.

What I'm looking for:

Is my age or older. But I'm willing to go quite a bit lower if you are neat and we have stuff in common. But super young isn't my goal here.

Mature, considerate, responsible and funny (Dorky wouldn't hurt)

Someone who never cheats, honesty and trust are important to me.

Someone who is open-minded, willing to try new things, be adventurous, funny and nerdy.

Someone who believes in sharing household chores equally because we are both adults.

Be open and frank about issues you or I are having. Not pushy or jealous. Won't yell or argue about stupid things, I've had enough of that.

Willing to push me to become a better version of myself (Can you turn me into Batman?)

If this sounds like you then feel free to reach out and say hi or challenge me to a game of Scrabble/Pictionary/hand to hand combat maybe? Maybe Wordle or some online vidya game?

P.S. I realize my post isn't for everyone but if your seeing red flags from my post then I'd say trust your gut and please don't message me as we probably aren't compatible. I honestly don't mean that in a mean or hurtful way. I've just been messaged quite often with women saying they pushed aside red flags to get to know me. Please don't, it never ends well and you end up wasting both of our time. Wouldn't you rather spend it finding your person with no flags?