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29 [M4F] #BUF/TOR/Everywhere - Searching for a fellow urophiliac curious cat who doesn’t take life too seriously, likes to ask deep questions, and only sometimes answer them?
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sedulouspellucidsoft is a male age 29 looking for a female in BUF/TOR/Everywhere
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Hiya, you can call me Dante! I’m 5’11,” 170 lb, (♉️♌️♎️, INFJ-A, or we can debate either! Nothing is 100%, but if you look up or know what these signs/personalities are known for, I do largely fit in to the category, so quizzing me about it would be quite fun!), dual citizen 🇺🇸🇨🇦 and neurospicy (mild ADHD).

I hope you’re doing well you’re reading this! If the title of this post intrigued you, then we probably have a lot in common, but I still wanted to write a somewhat long post just so you can get a sense of who I am and seal this deal! ☺️

If you prefer to get to know someone while chatting, then feel free to just skim this and let me know…I won’t be offended. 😝

To start with the basics,

I blend in pretty well as “normal,” but I’m generally pretty stoic in real life, as sometimes I can’t think of the right words I want to say and other times I fumble over them, lol. It gets better when I’m comfortable around you. But I obviously don’t have that problem through text. 🙃

I’ve been entrepreneurial since I was seven, buying candy in bulk and selling them to kids at school individually, lol. I’d love to brainstorm and talk about working for yourself, whether that’s where you currently are in life or that’s where you want to be!

I get along great with

other neurospicy-types, goths, geeks, hippies, witches, punks—the open-minded social outcasts—you know who you are. 😉

Yes, like many in our community, I’m a go-with-the-flow-type, open-minded towards most things (test me), leftist, pansexual, but my allo attraction is more femme-leaning.

As for my relationship status,

I’m currently unpartnered and I don’t like hook ups (I can’t separate emotional intimacy from sex). If we get along well, I’m in it for the long haul.

Like many others, I label myself polyamorous not because I’m actively looking to have X amount of partners, but because I greatly believe in personal autonomy and don’t believe in limiting who other people fall in love with. Sometimes it just happens, and if I love someone, I wouldn’t want them to limit their life for me. I definitely respect those who decide on monogamy—this is just the way I view things.

Passions and hobbies are

tricky for me for sure. Due to my ADHD I have no big passions, I just dabble in a bit of everything and quickly get bored of it, haha. TV shows, music, movies, and sometimes books and games (or board games) are the only “hobbies” I don’t seem to get bored of, but cooking can also be fun, especially if it’s a social activity.

Even though I’m a homebody, when I do go out, I like going to see the latest blockbuster, museums, the occasional musical, and throwing around a frisbee or taking a mild hike can be fun as well sometimes.

While I’m very optimistic, positive, and content with life right now (besides wanting a partner at some point, hence the need for this post!), supporting others in their mental health journeys has been a big theme in my life, so if you have any, even a less common one, feel free to be completely open with me about it, I’d always understand—you can ask my friends (who are all neurodivergent in some way). 🙂

If you’re feeling down and need encouragement, I love listening to thoughts and feelings without judgment, while providing a different perspective or a sounding board when needed.

I can sometimes talk about a cool idea I come up with in the field of science, technology, socioeconomics, or philosophy, but the inspiration has to strike for that to happen.

I also lift dumbbells while watching TV to stay an average body weight despite my homebody lifestyle, but that’s just me. I love all body types, hair styles, body piercings, tattoos, etc.

As far as personality goes,

I would say it’s pretty blasé, but at least I won’t annoy you, lol (unless you cringe at bad dad jokes I sometimes make). 

I think life is a little more exciting when you’re open to exploring new ideas and perspectives, right??

I believe we’re all just here in life to fart around. I definitely value social life more than work life.

When talking, sometimes I like to be analytical and question things. If you like to be contrarian, especially in a playful or teasing manner, and can get me to think, you’re going to make me so happy. 😁

I like to live simple, so nothing flashy, but buying practical goods that can make my life easier, or on experiences, is where I like to spend my extra money.

I’m also not private when talking to others—I’m 100% an open book, so feel free to ask me anything and I’ll answer with complete honesty. I’m quick to open up, and show my interest in you, but I’m not one to “love bomb” or make empty platitudes. Of course I’m not perfect in this regard, but I try to take my words very seriously and how they’ll have an impact on others.

A theme running through all this, and some of my fellow ADHD folks will understand, is that since I’m pretty content and idle, I lack spontaneity. While I make sure to take care of myself, I pretty much mostly gain motivation from others. This makes me very service-oriented (to a point). I really enjoy doing what I can to make others happy.

My communication style is

taking things slow and building up a friendship more than a relationship in the beginning. I love when someone really shows they enjoy my company, and I really enjoy giving and receiving attention, but I give space when it’s needed. We don’t need to be constantly chatting, as I’m in no rush. We hopefully have a very long time to get to know each other, so I’m pretty nonchalant about communication.

For instance, I had someone who was slow with their responses say that they didn’t want to lead me on. I’m like, I’m trying to make friends first and foremost, so it’s impossible to lead me on, haha.

I’m a night owl, so, most active during the night. I prefer voice notes over calls, but we can do calls occasionally if you enjoy it.

I have friends who might be interested in a group chat down the road. 😙 Sometimes that helps get conversations going if we start to run out of things to talk about one-on-one. I’m also in a polyam Discord server with some awesome and caring people, if you want to get in on that. I’m not terribly active there, but occasionally I’ll pop in.

I bond most with others over

spiritual (astrology, divination, energy working, etc.—I’m not religious), paranormal, philosophical, or business topics—also things they’re passionate about, or whatever’s going on in life.

I have pretty uneventful days, so it’d be nice if you have things going on you’d like to talk about, but if both of our days are pretty mundane then at least we can relate to each other, lol.

My worst qualities (imo) are:

procrastinating, forgetting, doing things slowly, over-thinking, lacking “common sense” or thinking on-the-spot, speech in general, complacency

My best qualities (imo) are:

care & understanding, open communication, curiosity, long-term and deliberate thinker

Favorite Quote:

"It is better to be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.” ~ Maurice Switzer

Top 5 Favorite Bands:

Paramore

Fallout Boy

Florence   The Machine

Jonas Brothers

The Brothers Johnson

Top 5 Favorite Artists:

Abel Tesfaye (The Weeknd)

Christine and the Queens

Pebbles

Justin Timberlake

Chromeo

Favorite Song Genres:

K-Pop

Rock

Synthwave

New Jack Swing

Dramatic Soundtracks

Favorite Show:

The Walking Dead

Favorite Anime:

Dragon Ball

Favorite Video Game:

Chrono Trigger

2 Truths, 1 Lie:

I made it to the district-wide Spelling Bee, my favorite movie is Godzilla 2000, I eat once a day 😉

To conclude, if this post is still up it means I’m still looking, and I’ve never ghosted anyone in my life once we start talking, so I’m not about to start now, haha.

Everyone is welcome to message me, all ages, body types, identities, orientations, color, and no matter your polyam situation and dynamic. I don’t have a preference for kitchen table or parallel styles.

I’m looking forward to hearing from ya!

Tell me where you are in life and something about yourself that people often get wrong, if you’d like. 😙

Cheers!

Dante

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