Alright, it’s a new year (by the Jewish calendar) and I’m finally being honest about what I’m really looking for On the Apps.

I’m looking for someone/s to coparent with together with my nesting partner (legal spouse, Luna for Public Internet Posting Purposes, they/them) and I (Rowan for PIPPs, they/them). We’re currently expecting, so it’s a strange time to meet someone, but we didn’t want to sit around for fifteen years waiting on a polyfamily setup to just walk up and bite us on the butts. We’ve been On the Apps continuously but neither of us has found a partner interested in coparenting, and work, logistics, etc lined up well for this year. So. Hi there!

We started off evaluating each other as coparents before we got to the snuggles and feelings. Having romance happen again would be nice, but I’ll be happy if we end up as friends or queerplatonic partners who share family joys and responsibilities. Partnered to one and coparent to the other is a possibility, or queerplatonic coparent with both, or other configurations are also possible, esp if we meet another couple. Looking for someone/s close-ish in age (~22-30 years, forty is right out) and who does not smoke/use nicotine.

Obviously, we’re expecting a slow start and a long period of getting to know each other one on one first before you do much more than look at the kid/s.

Other background: we’re both nonbinary dykes, mid twenties, scientists, geeky but somewhat outdoorsy and interested in moving off grid. We are pretty tied to our current location (in the Nordic countries) for work for the next ~4 years. We’re a Jewish/atheist couple and want to raise the kid/s Jewish (heterodox/Renewal). Neither has other committed partners at the moment, although Luna has an occasional kink playmate.

I’m a bit more adventurous with food and winter swimming and such. Also a big reader and enjoyer of a lot of creative things. Came out as asexual/ace spectrum ~10 years ago but am probably demisexual. Luna is a computer scientist and Rustacean, identifies as aro-spec, and takes great pride in having gotten me hooked on The Witcher 3. They are also very curious and fond of video essays about computing, nature, and politics.

That’s enough to start, hopefully. (Enough information that I was more comfortable with a throwaway!) If you’re also looking for something that starts slow but sticks around, send me a message and let’s get to know each other.

You can meet Luna whenever, but I’ll be the one checking messages so it’ll reach me first.