Lover 1. My current nesting partner/spouse of 23 monogamous years. A while ago we opened to explore separately, and ENM has decidedly revived our dead bedroom. We have a long complex history with grown children, intertwined finances, and we have no plans to ever live separately.

Lover 2. She may also have a nesting partner, but we see each other once or twice a week and communicate daily by text or phone. We are in love and we dearly admire each other and take pleasure in being in each others lives so closely. In another lifetime, we might be nesting partners. Our sex life is passionate and intimate and we know each others bodies well. We also love talking to each other over dinners in chic restaurants about our other lovers, careers, and the world in general. People see us together, and we are not shy about that. Let them think what they will. She likes to come to performances I give in my arts career, which is very public. We might even find ourselves out of town together from time to time. We are in it for the long term.

Lover 3. We may see each other once or twice a month. We're just in it for the mind-blowing sex, because while we do like each other, mostly we are just completely hot at the sight, smell, and feel of our skin. I think she is gorgeous, and she loves my handsome face and that I am slim and in shape. No complaints here. She loves when I talk dirty. Outside of the bedroom we communicate often and are good friends, even if we don't keep daily tabs. We both greatly value the benefits.

Lover 4. While neither of is super kinky, we do like to explore things together to expand our horizons which might otherwise stay vanilla. We might see each other every month or two for special occasions. Perhaps she invites me to a poly mixer where we serve as wing man or woman to each other. We can describe in detail who turns us on and what we would like to do with potential hookups. If one of is feeling particularly brave, they might invite the other in for a threesome. MFM? FMF? who knows. The thought never occurred to me, but I find myself super turned on by what she suggests. Always Safety first though!!

Lover 5?? This just seems impossible, (even in a fantasy.) Do I actually have the bandwidth to have a comet come into my life for a day or two? Or perhaps we are completely inappropriate for each other for any of the above scenarios, but we meet and it just happens and we can't say no! The memory could make us smile for a long time. Sigh.