Hi there! I’ve been poly my whole life, but didn’t have the vocabulary and enlightenment of ENM until about 8-9 years ago and I’m still learning and growing.

I am a homeowner, aspiring urban homesteader, part-time entheogenic grower(but avid user), recovering narcissist, extremely left-leaning liberal (ask me about my social justice podcast), Missouri born and bred “orange-neck”, Harley owner (FatBoy needs work), ADHD and depression battler, body dysmorphia cuddly, oversharer(Duh), TMI-gifted, recovering codependent, immuno-compromised, hopeful romantic, and devout Dacryphilic.

Yes, I am kink. And, while you don’t have to be, that would be a definite plus as I tend to only attend such events, munches and sloshes of that nature. I even host a local BIPOC munch. I am a retired(burnt out) ad creative with pretty much all the free time I want. Oh gawd is it awesome not answering to anyone for a paycheck! I am a heart attack survivor and will probably be downing fistfuls of pills for the rest of my life. I am currently dealing with multiple back issues, but I have an amazing health plan that takes my well-being seriously.

I am a massive texter and prefer that over video chats and phone calls, tbh. I’m an extreme extroverted introvert and am working to come out of my pandemic hermitting. I love sharing selfies with my partners (both NSFW and SFW).

I’d love to meet someone local, as I do prefer in-person relationships once a connection has been made. Virtual LDR is fine to start. But I’d eventually like to have a primary/nesting partner. I am not a relationship anarchist. I do believe a nesting partner, primary or not, takes precedence over other relationships.

I am queer, recently out to 2/3 of my kids and one cousin and would prefer a similarly queer partner. I am open to race, but must admit, having grown up in the Midwest, I have a predilection for Midwest “farmers’ daughters”, especially redheads. 🙈

BEWARE: I do text my people I love a lot and can be a bit much at times. I ask that you let me know when to throttle the attention back and please, oh please do not ghost me.

Allergies? I have none. And for the first time in my life I have allowed my biological cat to sleep with me in my bed. She is my ride or die and we don’t care if people laugh at her bubble backpack carrier. 😂

I have chickens. So. Yes, I am a “chicken tender”! I am not a big dog person TBH. My OCD and germaphobia prevent me from accepting them into a shoes-off space. Hey, I’m Asian!

This is getting to long. If you want to know more and see how handsome (or not 🥺) I am, please send me a message or start up a chat. (What’s the diff??) I won’t respond to replies here.

Oh! Consent, full disclosure and tactful honesty absolutely required. That’s a non-negotiable. 🤔