Hi there, thanks for stopping by! So to touch briefly on my present poly particulars I have a girlfriend I love very much! We live together. 10 years now. She's in the other room as I write this in fact. Now, with that said, this is in no way a solicitation for an affair. She is entirely aware of what I'm looking for, has her own set of relationships external to ours, and both she and I have dated and maintained relationships with people entirely separate from one another over the course of our decade together. We're quite happily polyamorous/ethically non monogamous/call it what you will. I met her new boyfriend a few months back. He seems cool. We talked about Spider-Man.

Disclosure, my partner and I are fundamentally in a very vanilla relationship. We're both quite firmly on the left side of the slash when it comes to "that sort of thing" and both far too stubborn to budge on that aspect. Our kink incompatibility is one, but hardly the only, factor in our open relationship. Truthfully neither of us believe monogamy is that much of an iron clad proposition. We're not super into the whole "kitchen table" thing. This is a "you and me" kind of deal. She's not terribly interested in the specifics.

In terms of your present and personal poly particulars, the number of partners you have is largely not a concern for me. All I ask is you have the bandwidth for a growing relationship and, ideally, you're not heavily invested in an existing d/s dynamic cause those things need some sorta room to grow yeah? Just as long as the people(s) in your life and bed know they aren't the only ones to occupy that spot. Not soliciting an affair, not interested in being part of one. Let's keep the ethical in ethical non monogamy yeah?

Anyway if you're still here you're either poly/enm/etc etc yourself or at least comfortable with the concept! So if you're still with me, let's chat about some stuff shall we?

I'm 40, which feels way too old yet also not really that old? Age isn't that much of a factor for me, more maturity and commonality of experience. Be able to talk, openly, honestly, maturely, about your life and needs and goals and wants and we'll get along fine, regardless of what year you were born in (at least, hopefully, it starts with a 1 not a 2? And, and I can't believe I have to say this, be firmly on the "can vote and drink and drive (not at the same time kids) side of things)

Kink wise, my interests fall fairly typical. I have a sadistic streak that delights in teasing, twisting, tormenting and torturing. Maybe tickling if you're into that sorta thing. Toilet play can stay out of it though.

Alliteration aside (damn it I did it again), bondage, sensory deprivation, impact play, little humiliation and degradation, orgasm control (oh I love this one and I so rarely get to play with it, comes with the whole "poly" territory where the people you date also tend date other people and THOSE people generally like having fulfilling sex lives with their partners. If that's you I get it, orgasm control's off the table, I will only sigh wistfully once or twice about it)

I don't really care where in the world you are. If COVID taught us anything it's that relationship can grow, blossom, and be maintained in the absence of physical proximity but the possibility of physical proximity is still a good thing, so maybe best if you're not super duper far the general New England area? Hard to boss you around if you're getting up while I'm going down.

I get that what I offer isn't for everyone. Or even most people. Maybe it is for you? If so, I'd love to chat.