Who we are: Married couple in which I (37F) am monogamous and he (37M) is polyamorous.

We enjoy intellectual pursuits dealing with reading, writing, and storytelling gaming. We do have kids, so it's important that who we're looking for is okay with that aspect.

Who we are looking for: Someone who is fun and enjoys finding the humor in life. We tend to be slightly shut-in, so we'd like someone who is social and prioritizes meaningful friendships with lasting power. Ease us out of our comfort zone so that we can expand horizons together. Creative input is a plus since we spend a lot of time coming up with new stories and theories on life. It'd be great to find someone who embraces fashion and likes keeping up with trends. Neither of us are good in these areas, so it'd be nice to get some tips and learn from each other. Age isn't super important, but someone who is around our age is preferable.

The Friendship: Building a solid connection and developing friendships is the most important aspect of this dynamic. My husband isn't looking to date someone else on the side, and I wouldn't like that either. We like to do everything together and have plenty of room for a meaningful friendship. I'd like to enhance each other's lives by providing the things we like in reciprocal ways, experiencing each other's interests. I imagine connecting with activities like working out together (yoga, pilates) and playing casual games (Stardew Valley, The Sims). I can share my intrigue into the occult and foreign languages, and maybe you can teach me about social activities and all the exciting topics you'd like to share. I'm looking to create lifetime friendships where we enjoy spending our day-to-day lives together and build each other up.

The Relationship: This portion will of course develop slowly over time as the friendship part comes first. We are not after any type of physical connection but looking more toward a budding wholesome romance. A relationship where everyone feels secure and has a sense of loyalty toward each other. Something that offers mutual support where there is an equal exchange of stability and fun. My husband is a house-spouse and enjoys taking care of others. Making his loved ones happy is his driving force. While our interests may diversify and differ, our life values should be relatively on the same page. I feel like this is something to further discuss if you are interested in getting to know us better. Building comfort and trust with each other through friendship is the foundation for how the relationship will manifest.

Some Clarifications: Since I am the monogamous one in our marriage, I am supporting my husband in his polyamorous dynamic. This is why the friendship aspect is so important. We're looking for a serious connection with someone who would be open to spending the rest of their life together with us. To achieve this, it's also going to be a slow process where we carefully build trust and deep connections over time.

We prefer talking over Discord, so send me a message or private chat, and we can exchange usernames. Feel free to ask any questions if you'd like to know more.