Gender tags are... dumb lol. Anyway, I know this is a bit long, but I'm a complex being (and also I don't know how to shut up lol). Online dating has been really difficult and dating in person has been even worse--is it this rough for everybody? So anyway, I'm giving Reddit a go.

Hi, I'm Winnie (or Winter)! I'm queer and nonbinary/genderqueer (they/she), AFAB if it matters. I'm hoping to meet new potential partners. I'm currently in the absolute middle-of-nowhere, western-central PA, but I'm planning on moving to Columbus, OH before the end of the year. I'm okay with long-distance dating if we're super compatible, though!

Please be in the 23-40 age range. I'm firm on no one under 23, but a bit above 40 is fine if we click!

Some things to know about me: I'm ethically non-monogamous. I have a queerplatonic partner who I consider to be my anchor partner (we date separately). Though I will always strive to be as actively anti-hierarchal as possible, they've been my best friend for almost 15 years and I do live with them for stability and support, so there is a certain level in which my life is tied up in someone else's. However, I also frequently utilize the relationship anarchy smorgasbord and a number of other RA principles to navigate my individual relationships, and I value my autonomy as well as each of my relationships' uniquely agreed-upon commitments, so there is definitely a lot of work that gets put in to my relationships to be anti-hierarchal.

I'm very specifically queer4queer in my dating life. This means I only date other people who identity as queer in some way. Beyond that, I really don't care too much about what you look like or your gender/sexuality or etc. If we vibe, we vibe. I'm a strong leftist and I'm agnostic with religious trauma, so I am 100% not interested in talking to conservatives or Christians at this time.

I'm disabled/chronically ill and neurodivergent. I often use a mobility aid to get around. I'm fat and trying to be unapologetic about it (read that again and don't be surprised by it when you see me). I change my hair color every other month. Very willing to exchange selfies/other socials/etc once we start talking!

My greatest passion is singing, and I'm not too terrible at it. I write occasionally, do some art, and take care of a lot of pets (4 dogs and 7 cats!) I'm in fandoms like Marvel, Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, Supernatural, etc. I love musical theater and absolutely everything horror-related. Fall Out Boy has been my biggest special interest for almost 20 years, and unfortunately if we talk for any length of time, you're inevitably going to have to listen to me infodump about Taylor Swift. But the good news is, I'll listen to you talk about anything for hours! I'm not too much of a gamer myself (mainly just ACNH lol), but I love to watch other people play 😊

Brief physical intimacy stuff: I'm a sub, and have been interested in looking for a dom/me. Pretty kinky in theory, still a bit inexperienced in practice. And vanilla sex is great too. So sex/kink is something that could certainly be on the table, and I'm open to discuss that early on. But I do need to have a real connection with someone before sex (I think I'm demi??), so I'm definitely not interested in just hooking up or solely having a kink dynamic with nothing else, or jumping into a sexual relationship right away.

So I'm looking to develop romantic relationships with the possibility of becoming romantic/sexual relationships! I have a lot of trauma from multiple abusive relationships in my past, and I've spent a lot of time in therapy and on my own working through that (especially since the pandemic started; I've been very isolated for the past 3 years). My queerplatonic partner is lovely and I get a lot of things I need from our relationship, but I miss having partners that I have romantic and physical intimacy with, and I'm in a place where I'm ready to explore that with people again.

I used to think I was an introvert, but I actually think I'm just bad at the "getting-to-know-you" process. I'm awkward and I'm a bit bad at social cues. But I literally don't shut up once you get to know me, so I really think I just need people willing to break the ice or who are good at keeping a conversation going when you're first getting to know someone. If you made it through this whole post and you feel like we could hit it off, DM me and tell me your favorite show or movie!