Me: Kitchen Table Poly 5'11" average build (5-10 lbs I could stand to lose) schedule is hectic at the moment but hope to make time to be more active soon. Brown hair and eyes Short to medium beard A couple tattoos (still adding)

Vaxxed Clean and will test snipped no kids partner and I 'may' foster/adopt 'eventually'

I've read polysecure, I go to therapy regularly, I'm conscientious and considerate. I'm a bit of an anxious person, but after a short time (and no red flags), I usually have a very secure attachment style.

I'm logical, practical, goofy, relaxed, kind, honest and straightforward. I don't like playing guessing games, if there's something you want me to know just tell me. Little bit of a stoner, but I started smoking after I grew up so it's not my whole personality 😜 I can fix or build most things, I aquire new hobbies every few months because #ADHD.

I'm looking for: Long-term partner, open to short term, cool with being friends first, potential FWB, serious/intentional connections, local to Triangle area.

Happily married to my nesting partner and best friend of 10 years who is neurodivergent, a therapist and absolutely fantastic. Wife and I date separately, if someone happens to connect with both of us, we're open but not looking for that. Hookups and flings are not my style, think cozy and connected as a baseline then we can add as much spice as we want 😉.

I have a pack of dogs(4), stable career, I have a hard time saying no to people when they ask for help, and a hard time asking others for help.(I'm Working on that)

Into a lot of anime, sci-fi, some gaming (computer and ttrpg), books, philosophy, theology, narrative structure, mechanical engineering, architecture, and tinkering.

I can be a little shy and/awkward at first, but if you're open with me that drops almost instantly.

Hopefully you:

Age: 24-36

Gender: women, genderqueer, NB

Have an open mind, emotional intelligence, intellectual curiosity, clear communication, and are honest/ straightforward.

Have a relatively stable job/lifestyle/situation and at least a general sense of what you want your life to look like.

Are at least as active/healthy as I am, (no judgement if not, you just may not be for me)

Actually avoid drama

Bonus points if you:

Are a lil crunchy

Are a little boyish (but not particularly masculine)

Give alt/emo vibes

Short and/or Slim

Are a maker of some kind (anything from crafty to an artist in anything; food, music, woodworking, jewelry). I find it very attractive when you can see how someones passion for a craft or activity is made evident (in a healthy way) on their body. Our bodies tell the story of who we are and how we live. My hands have scars from manual labor and are sometimes rough for example.

Looks don't define a person, but we can't pretend they don't matter. I'm in no rush to be physical, but I don't have any desire to talk for months before meeting.