Hello all! I’m looking for a person - or couple - to connect with. A little about me: I’m 34 and married, we date separately. I have a full time job plus a side/passion-project that takes up a considerable amount of time, but thankfully I get to set the deadlines and workload there, so I can carve out time when I want to :) I’m into music (I have an eclectic taste that spans many genres, but I guess I mainly look for what's catchy), sci-fi (currently rereading Dune getting ready for Part 2 coming out later this year in theaters), gaming (when I have time), cybersecurity, I’m just sort of an all-around nerd. Bit of anime (not a long while), casual Marvel, tinkerer (mostly with computers), etc. I have two cats and a ball python. Politically I’m left of center (by American standards, so centrist by global standards I think?). I’m 5’ 10” and currently 240 lbs, but trying to lose weight. Admittedly I could be trying harder, but I am looking for places in my life I can make changes that are gonna stick. I could probably live without sodas, and I've been trying to avoid empty calories (like fries and sides) when I do eat out.

As for what I’m looking for, as you probably already gathered by the headline there's a bit to unpack here. So far starters, I know that relationship anarchy is the big thing these days (and I'm a big supporter of it), but clearly that's not something that can work for me at this time. I'm not looking to divorce my wife or move out. If I were in different circumstances or if I'd learned about this when I was younger, I'd probably go for it myself, but here we are. As such, pretending that that won't affect the time and attention I can give to other partners is downright insulting to everyone involved. Peak denial. That said, I'm a big believer that people are people who should always be treated with respect. I'm not looking for a booty call that I only talk to once a month, and being that my wife is also poly I'm not looking to hide you from her (she LOVES to get to know her metamours and spend time with them herself) or only spend time with you when she's not looking. I want to actually connect: text throughout the day, have regular date nights, get to know each other and go through life together for however long we want to. Ideally I'd like to find someone in a similar position as me: where you're looking for an actual partner, but also realistic about your priorities. Maybe you're a couple with kids or a partnered individual or even a single person focusing on your career who's not looking to make someone the center of your universe. If so, then I might be your guy.

All that out of the way, I'm pretty flexible in terms of my "type." I'm heteroflexible and I’m open to all body types, ethnicities, religious beliefs (I'm agnostic, personally), etc. I'm also open to being just friends, all I ask is that you be up front with me about your goals. Ideally I would prefer someone in Austin, but I may be open to an LDR for the right person/people.That’s all I got. If I missed anything feel free to ask questions. I’m happy to send a pic or two via DM. No Snap, Kik, Telegram, Discord, etc. At least, not at first. Hope to hear from some cool people!