Hi there! I’m in an open marriage and I’m a Dad.

I am looking for a woman who is also in an open relationship or at least has some experience with that. I look to find someone to date and see long term in a secondary type relationship. I’m looking for emotional intimacy that feeds into physical intimacy. I’m poly in that I’m open to romantic feelings if they develop but I also am not trying to force anything. Just want someone to appreciate and feel connected to.

I’m 43, white, 6’1”, 190lbs. I workout and run regularly. I have jaw length ashy/brown/blonde hair (still have all of it and it’s wavy/curly and thick), blue eyes, I currently have a trimmed goatee (I’m thinking about shaving it) and I wear glasses. I generally get the comment that I don’t look like a Dad, I’m happy to trade pics so we can test that assertion haha, you can rate me on my dad-ness. Personality wise I’m strong, quietly confident, laid back, sweet, and introverted.

I like nerdy stuff like board/video games and I also enjoy football (Niners!), hiking and occasionally going out to dance. I work as a lead software engineer in video games. I am a native of the Bay Area. I also enjoy weed so be friendly with it please. Generally open as well to other party/psychedelic type drugs and enjoy experimenting with the right person (combine this with dancing?).

In the bedroom I have a natural, passionate and sensual way. I enjoy being the masculine one in general but I am not formally kinky or a dom type. I have a strong carnal desire, I’m sensually very intuitive and I enjoy causing pleasure. Also, I’ve had a vasectomy.

Attributes I like in a partner are short, sweet, sensual, genuine and down to earth.

A word about my relationship; we are open but not swingers. I look to find a purposeful connection with a like mind. I am not looking for something quickly or for the short term. The goal is certainly to find amazing physical chemistry, but with someone whom I know, care for and respect.

I live in San Jose and I am quite mobile and happy to drive almost anywhere within reason.

Thank you for reading this far and I hope to hear from you!