Hi y’all- I’m sorry for this short rant here, but this subreddit is one I actually enjoy and have met a number of great people through, and it’s kinda going to shit lately, so thought I’d say something.

If you’re at all a regular poster, commenter, or lurker on this subreddit, you’ve seen the massive uptick in painfully obvious scam postings that are NSFW and clearly just bots/scammers. Why are they allowed to persist for so long without any mod intervention? Given that this is meant to be a SFW subreddit, why are NSFW posts even allowed here? A casual scroll will show anywhere from a handful to a dozen of the same copy/pasted poorly worded scripts being plastered all over here, and no action seems to be taken…

On another note: my fellow redditors- we also need to cool our jets and get off of the unicorn hunting soap box. I’m so sick of seeing any couple posting about forming a triad being met with only anger and downvotes and no attempts to educate them on the harm their behavior can cause and why it’s problematic. Not to mention, just because triads are extremely rare and difficult to make work, doesn’t mean they’re impossible. I’m not talking about the posts that start with “I SWEAR we’re not unicorn hunters, we just…[proceeds to describe unicorn hunting].” But there are a handful of couples who genuinely know what they’re doing, have been polyamorous for years or even decades, and this is a dynamic they’re specifically trying to explore, knowing the risks and the difficulty and being as fair and equitable as possible.

Not to mention, the entire last paragraph seems to ONLY apply to couples that include MEN. In the last couple weeks, I’ve seen multiple FF4R posts get tons of upvotes and comments, and nary a fucking whisper of unicorn hunting. So all of you who immediately downvote every MF couple to oblivion but see no problem with 2 college-aged women trying to find a third for their relationship just because that’s hot and therefore somehow not toxic, can all fuck right off.

Mods- can we stop falling asleep at the wheel or hand the keys to someone who gives a damn? Also, if this subreddit is so against unicorn hunting, can we change the examples on “how to post” from being specifically that???

The rest of us- let’s try being a more open and accepting community instead of jumping down people’s throats immediately without even attempting to calmly explain to people why their behavior is at best unwise, and at worst, knowingly harmful.

Like I said, this subreddit has been a really great place for a lot of people. Can we try to keep it that way? I’d hate for this to be lost as a resource for polyamorous redditors.

Much love to all of you

❤️