I'm a nerdy, kink-adjacent, demisexual, extroverted-introvert with a penchant for chaos and I live and breathe empathy. How do all of those qualities fit into one person? I'll tell you how: Neurodivergency. AMAB and giving less of a shit about the M as time goes on; I'd rather just be a feeling. That feeling ranges from Masc. to "ambiguous chaos deity," (if that's not a makeup palette, it should be).

I'm in the middle of an amicable separation because life happens. So as not to waste your time: I'm 90% certain I've got all the romance I need in my life right now. FWBs are right about where it's at, but let's actually be friends?? I just want a social circle I can kiss sometimes. (oh my god, that's where the title comes from).

90% means romance isn't totally off the table; just don't charge in looking for it. I currently have two partners and I like things to be kitchen table. Or at least... The kitchen table's there and whether you want to sit at it is up to you. Forever DM looking to get an in person game going, at that table!

I'm into nerd stuff. I'm not into being an ass about nerd stuff. If excited rambles are your thing, we will get along. I write software for work, make bad music for fun and I dabble in anything I fucking want to, fight me: 3D design / printing, writing, sewing, raising 18 cats. Currently working on a set of magnetic, felted tiles to use with a projector system I'm setting up for D&D! Maybe I'll even write a web app to go along with that?

I've made a lifelong goal out of trying to be the best human I can be, while appreciating the limitations that being human comes with. I'm left-leaning with more than a little empathy. I'm definitely not perfect, but I'm always trying to improve.

Send me a message if you want. I exist on most social platforms if you'd rather go there?