Hey everyone, I go by Desian. I try to avoid labels when I can, but there are a few that tend to be important to other people so i will use them as the handy shorthand that they are. I'm non-binary and pansexual. I have been described as somewhat asexual, but I do experience sexual attraction - it just takes me a long time to get there and only with people I'm very comfortable with. If there's a proper microlabel for that, I dont know it and I dont really care!

I've been polyamorous for about 5 years and have several wonderful partners. I always find it important when meeting other poly people to define what partner means to me, since it really is a vague term. I can have partners with or without sex or romance, but the core aspect of all the relationships I consider partners is that I would do anything in my power to help them and see them succeed and be happy. Sometimes partner can be a wildly physical relationship, and sometimes it can be the next stage up from close friends. The important thing is that both parties agree and understand what it means to them.

I have an English degree and am a voracious reader and writer - I love books, comics, video games, anything with a story - and play a lot of D&D as both a DM and a player. I also like to play a lot of online games, mostly MMO's and TCGs, but at this point most of the people I used to know don't play any longer. I'm a total dork for anyone with special interests, and nothing is as fun to me as listening to someone ramble lovingly about a passion they have.

I am always at a loss for introducing myself in conversations, so assuming all of you have the same problem, I implore you to tell me about a special interest you have! Whether that's your collection of cool rocks, your job differentiating stem cells, or all the ways you've analyzed your favorite movie, I would love to hear it.

TL;DR - I am prone to rambling, and you probably won't like me if you needed to look for this. Sorry.