OK, so I'm looking for a little advice. I'm nearly 34 and a cisgender woman with two long term partners and a good number of friends, casual partners and acquaintances. I'm solo-poly and a relationship anarchist. I've tried living with people before but, possibly partly due to a past cohabiting relationship being abusive, I'm very keen on having my own space and don't do well with sharing living space (especially not with partners). I find that the power dynamics can turn unhealthy very quickly and I'm sick of picking up 90% the housework for male partners when cohabiting.

The only person I could envision spending my life with is my partner A, who I've known for 15 years and been in a relationship with for 8 years. He doesn't want to live with anyone, though, or have children. He's the most thoroughly 'adult' man I've ever known.

Another potential partner of mine does want children. The problem with him is that I can't even rely on him to keep an unforced promise about when he'll send me a message, never mind stick around or take responsibility for bringing up a brand new person.

My other long-term partner is one of those 'I don't see the mess so I'm going to play games now while blithely ignoring you cooking dinner, cleaning up and doing the dishes' people. I lived with him once and I just ended up pissed off at him all the time.

My problem is that I want a child - just one. The difficulty is that I don't want to be beholden to someone else in order to do this. My perfect vision is of me bringing a child up on my own - teaching them, loving them, caring about them - without being worried about ending up with someone abusive or who doesn't pull their weight at home.

The problem is society, to me. I live in the UK and I don't want to bring up a child while poor. Single mothers are denigrated rather than praised. It seems that everything pushes us towards needing the extra financial support of another person (most specifically a man) in order to bring up a child. Workplaces are distinctly un-child-friendly. If there's no one else to pick them up after school, or drop them off there, how do you carry on any kind of career? Without a career, how do you earn money to live? Without money, how do you give them what they need to grow up with opportunities and experiences that help them make choices about how they want to live?

I'm left thinking that I probably won't be able to have a child because I won't bring one into the world to live in poverty and I can't work out how I can have a lucrative career and be the kind of parent I would want to be.

Does anyone have any thoughts about this that I haven't considered? Unfortunately kitchen table poly and other very sociable situations doesn't work for me. I'm too introverted to handle the regular social interaction.

TL;DR: want to have a kid but don't want to have to live with someone to do it. How can I make this work with money vs time to raise a child in the UK?