i posted my story here a few weeks ago but i decided to delete it so no one would find out. but i'm going through a really tough time right now and i need support, so i'm going to tell the story again with a little bit of update.

1 and a half month ago, my fiancé (let’s call them A) of 2 years got close with their polyamorous friend (let’s call them B), and then A told me that they’re poly.

a little backstory:

in the beginning of our relationship, A already told me that they’re poly, then i said to A that i can’t be in a relationship with them because i’m monogamous, but A begged me to stay because they loved me so much and said they could be monogamous if they really love the person, that’s why i wanted to try dating A.

so now A feels like they’re ‘really’ poly because they feel like they can love multiple people at the same time. so we agreed to open the relationship so that A can pursue other romantic relationships. a few weeks after that conversation, A fell hard for B, to the point where A changed their mind about marrying me and wanted to marry B instead because B wants to have kids meanwhile I’m not sure yet. A also said that they have a really strong connection with B and very aligned with each other, to the point where A is questioning everything. But then A confessed to me that they already lost their physical attraction for me, they didn’t know when or how. Because of this, I decided to break up with A. I am definitely crushed by the separation. Just when I thought things couldn’t get any worse, A announced that they’re engaged (with B) in a community group chat where both me and A are in, not even a month after the breakup. As much as I want to be happy for them, I can’t deny that I feel hurt and sad.

Thank you so much for reading this. I just want to get this off of my chest and seek for support because it’s been really tough.