My partner, Snickers (33 M) is going through a rough break up with his other partner, Starburst (36 F). They’ve been on the rocks for months and it appears it reached its breaking point last week.

Snickers is absolutely beside himself. His pain is also tearing me, Jelly Bean, (31 F) apart. I feel like I’m losing him.

I don’t know how to be a good partner to him through this. I’m checking in on him everyday, trying to respect his boundaries, telling him how much I love him but I just don’t know that it’s going to be enough.

I’ve never had a romantic partner be heartbroken over another partner. I don’t want to make this about me, but I am also worried about not getting my own needs met during this time.

I know that some of my own insecurities may have influenced their decision to break up (though not the driving factor) and I feel absolutely distraught over it and am doing a lot of personal work to right my wrongs.

I just want to be a good partner to Snickers and I want him to be happy. Do I just have to wait it out?

Please be kind.

Edit:

I found these and will be giving a listen as soon as I can

https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/128-how-to-support-your-partner-through-a-break-up?format=amp

https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/365-heartbreak-and-recovery?format=amp