My partner Rocky (33M), is having difficulty being a good hinge partner to both me (30F) and my meta, Sandy (36F). I know he wants to do better. We’ve talked through agreements & boundaries, but I was hoping to cast the advice net wider here on this community.

What are some good tips and tricks for hinge partners? How do you make both of your partners feel seen & heard? What do you do when each of your partners desires of you, conflict? How do you say yes to one of your partners, but no to the other?

Not looking for answers to the above questions specifically, just adding them to get the ideas flowing.

I’d like to share a list of ideas with Rocky so he can evaluate and consider which might be things to think about adopting into his relationship management toolbox.

Thank you!

Edit: Rocky has other means of researching what he needs to know. I don’t know if he’s on this sub-Reddit. I don’t really care. Please humor me and tell me what you think a good hinge partner does. At the very least it will be helpful for me to learn what to look for in future partners and/or how to be a better hinge partner myself when the time comes. Thanks.