Hey Reddit community,

I find myself in a challenging situation and could really use some guidance or insight. My partner and I have been together for 7 years, and recently they've started seeing someone new. I'll admit, I'm not handling it well at all, and it's causing a lot of turmoil within me.

I've developed strong negative feelings towards this new person, which has impacted my ability to talk about them or even be comfortable with their presence in my life. It's challenging to grapple with the idea of my partner loving someone else, despite them seeking the same kind of love I share with my two partners.

My partner hasn't done anything wrong, and we've always had excellent communication skills until now. We seem to be constantly at odds, especially when it comes to my partner spending time with the new person. This situation is taking a toll on our relationship, and I'm feeling a sense of hopelessness and worthlessness that I've never experienced before.

I'm aware that this is my issue to address, and I don't want to hurt my partner or control their choices. I've started therapy and immersed myself in books and podcasts to better understand and embrace polyamory. Despite my efforts, I can't shake the difficulty and pain I'm feeling.

I'm reaching out to this community in the hope that someone may have faced a similar struggle or can offer advice on how to navigate these emotions. I genuinely want to make polyamory work and salvage my relationship, but I feel stuck. What am I missing? What steps can I take to overcome these challenges and find peace within myself?

Thank you for taking the time to read and share your thoughts.