Hi, I don't often post, but I'm hurting this Friday a relationship ended after 7yrs living together as a triad. I can't stop crying, it's beyond salvation too much has happened from all parties involved. I know what I did wrong I'm not innocent I don't want anyone's absolution or to tell me it's not my fault. If I use words that you oppose to I'm sorry I know some people hate the word triad or wife etc... But it's what worked for us to describe ourselves.

I just need friends, or strangers in this case to just talk to maybe help distract me from the pain. Almost every one in my life polyam or not just says stupid things like at least you still have your wife, invalidating the pain or worse some have tried to swoop in and white knights the ex-partner, we are still talking so she told me about it. The wife and I have 3 kids and our partner was obviously a big part of their lives so they are hurting too and I have my part in causing their pain which in turn is killing me

Heck I'm typing this through tears right now. I would appreciate messages or anything that might help.