A few months ago my husband suggested we try swinging. I've never been with anyone other than my husband (17 years) and liked the idea. I was hesitant to appear too eager, as to not freak him out but thought a lot about it. A few weeks ago I downloaded the app he was using (Feeld) and started matching with people. I was initially scared and excited. I didn't really date my husband as we met in college and this was before dating apps. We married after we both finished college and never really looked back. I do have a bit of resentment as I never dated even while married other than the official lunch date or a fancy dinner with friends. He's the only person I've slept with as he had prior relationships. We are happily married but I do desire the NRE and feeling special. I wouldn't have asked this of him until he started talking about swinging first.
Here is where the advice is needed. I started a conversation with a man and we hit it off. We shared kinks, interests, and had about 2 solid weeks of texting back and forth. Sexting is my new hobby I guess. He's experienced in Poly, so I thought it would be easier to navigate things with someone who's been there. He initially love bombed me. We met up this week and I still found him attractive. Nothing major happened, just hand holding and kissing, which I told my husband about. Afterwards I texted him that we were looking for FWB since that is as far as my husband is comfortable with right now. He's since ghosted me a bit, which is fine if he's looking for more. The thing is, I don't think that's what I want FWB or Swinging anymore. I want more: dates, feeling special, etc.. Is this just the NRE talking? I feel out of depth and no one I can talk with as I live in a very Christian/Conservatives area.
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