So now that my husband and I are scheduling discussions about boundaries I'm curious about how to navigate differing ideas.

Now I know anything besides an enthusiastic yes is a no to opening up.

What I'm wondering is if you have different ideas about what your agreement will look like, is there room for compromise should there be things we aren't sure if we would be comfortable with?

My man is very open and easy to talk to and I'm willing to stick to monogamy should that be the conclusion. And I'm really committed to making this a positive experience for the both of us so I don't want to make a major fuck up before we even get out the door lol.

We have a really amazing list of talking points so I'm confident that many bases are covered.

The whole OPP is something that could be a big discussion. He's always been cool with swinging with women and entertained the idea of us dating another woman. Cliche I know. But he didn't completely shut down the idea of me seeing other men just said that he's not sure how he would feel about it. Which I gathered. So I posed him the question, "how would that feel to me if you were able to see other women (he is straight) and I could not see people of other genders?(I'm Pan) How would we work that?" I didn't expect an instant answer just left it with him and he did seem to think quite deeply about it.

Also, (and I'm very aware this is something I need to work on in order to be ready for new relationships) if we had a OPP I don't think I would be ok with him seeing other women on his own as it is pretty unfair and misogynistic IMO and I'd ask we stick to swinging with women together. Is it immature or controlling of me to think that way?

Of course there are many discussions to be had before we go for it and we have lots to learn. Please be gently forward with advice. I'm not planning on taking anything lightly or rushing. I want honesty but not to be made to feel dumb or childish about this all. I'm doing my best to take the proper steps to make this as smooth as possible and leave everyone's dignity in tact. 💖