I'm not monogamous, but I don't always feel like polyamorous is quite the right way to explain myself. The phrase "relationship anarchy" does a great job of explaining how I approach relationship structures, but it doesn't explain how I go about the practice of multiple relationships or what I want from them. Labels are more of a convenience to explain complex ideas in less depth, but I feel confused when trying to find one for how I am.
Monogamy does not work for me, and never has. Polygamy, even when you strip out the general negative insinuations, isn't it either. I have my small circle of "people I'm close to", but is isn't fixed through time. Partners, lovers, friends, playmates, whatever other temrs you want to call them...these people come and go. As a child my friendships (and honestly every other kind of relationship except in some cases family) worked exactly the same way, various people coming and going independently of one another at different times. I'm not wired for marriage or for one night stands, but more for people to just...flow in and out. It's not permanent, it's not committed, it's not structured...and yet it's loyal, loving, and wonderful all the same. What I should call it is beyond me, but it is who I am. What would you call it? What do you think of it?
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