It's been said I can academize anything and lately I've been asked questions about my relationship decisions and had to do some soul-searching as to the realities of my heart. Here's what I came up with - take it or leave it but please be kind.

So in general I’m a body positive sex positive person. Consenting adults should be able to share positive sexual experiences without anyone else having a say in it. But is it different when it’s my husband? Let’s put it this way. If by becoming my husband a door closes because you became my husband is that fair? If, then, by my own rules <rule 1 being all consenting adults should be able to share positive sexual experiences> and / rule 2 being my spouse means you can’t have positive sexual experiences / doesn’t that mean I make sure my spouse is now a 2nd class citizen bc he has less rights than if he hadn’t married me? That’s a shit thing to do to another person especially a person you’re married to.  🛎

Is it always a breeze? Do i sometimes struggle with it? Absolutely. But i have to actively be alert to that so that I don't stumble in a way where I'm behaving not in accordance with my morals and values. But I am neither the first nor the last person to sometimes find it difficult to walk the walk.