My (24f) partner (26m) started sleeping with someone (32new a few months ago, and liked her well enough to introduce her to me, a first. And of course, she’s lovely. We became fast friends, and totally out of the blue, i realized i got the heart eyes bad. She’s already told my partner she likes him, he’s not there yet. She’s also “heteroflexible” and hasn’t experimented much with that at all. I have adhd, which makes it really hard not to hyperfocus on a crush because of the dopamine rush. But, on the other hand, i dont think i want anything to happen between us. I dont want it to get ugly and i lose a friend. And besides, it seems like pursuing such a thing would only be complicated. What if she doesnt ever like me that way but my partner starts to like her back? Or worse, what if he doesnt and we’re all just quietly yearning? What if she’s romantically but not sexually attracted to me, or the opposite? Id really struggle with doing one but not the other with her. Or what if she and i start dating and NRE takes me and my partner realizes he needs a partner that can devote more time to him? I know these are the sorts of things everyone worries about, but seriously, do these sorts of things ever end well for anyone? Has anyone been in something similar and it actually worked out? I dont see any. So how do i let it go, and stop worrying about it?