Hey all I’m brand new to this subreddit and feel like I could use some advice. My (TFNB) and my partner (TMNB) have been together for several years and have from the beginning been so with the understand that we are poly. The issue I’m having is multi fold and it may be something that I just have to work to get over but I figured asking for advice from people who may be more experienced might help. We are personally married but don’t put stock in that beyond the legal implications and try our best to be non-hierarchical, and when possible all inclusive (triad/Quad) But I have the issue of feeling quite left out and alone. My partner is better at meeting people so most often they are the one that finds other partners as such it often happens that I am left on the outside as my partners partner often has no interest in me. I suppose I need advice on how to manage the feelings of jealousy Compersion and feeling left out. This also frequently has an issue of me being left to pick up the pieces when my partners partner breaks up with them, which is exhausting and more importantly heartbreaking to see my partner in so much pain. Apologies for the long post. Also free to dm for more in depth advice.