Hi there. I'm pretty new to polyamory, though I've been reading on it and discussing it with my husband for a long time now.

My husband lives in another country from me (but only like 4.5 hours of driving from me). We've both talked about nesting, and we'd both really like that, but we've had lots of struggles with immigration and the cost and legal difficulty involved with that so we haven't really made progress there.

I just started dating someone in my friend group here (kind of unexpectedly - I had been struggling with feelings for him for a while and had no idea he felt the same until he said something the other night!).

Something my husband brought up was, what if my new partner and I really fall for each other? What are we gonna do about where I live? Would I choose to no longer nest with my husband? Just basically.. like, logistics stuff in that way. I didn't quite have an answer for him. I'll be honest, I've worried about leaving my job and friend group here anyway (I don't necessarily see romantic relationships as "more important" than my friendships), so it's not like this is a new issue but it does probably add a new layer of complexity. I probably should talk to my new partner about this too, but it's so fresh and I guess I'm worried about coming on too strong.

But like. Idk how to handle this or what could work to make us *all* happy in this situation if my new partner and I do become more serious. Or even just in general because I don't wanna lose out on my husband, OR my friend group.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? Anyone have any ideas in general for this?

Sorry for the length and if it's sort of rambly. I'm worried about the potential outcome here though and would love to hear others' ideas.

Thanks in advance! <3

*edit* i just also want to note that my husband has a 6yo kid with someone else and that's why he can't just come here. extra complicates things :(