My (F28) NP (F27) of 6 yrs organised to stay the night at one of her partners houses during a Covid Lockdown & only told me when I asked what the plan catching up with this partner was. We had previously agreed on one bubble buddy each during lockdowns which we felt was justifiable under lockdown rules & met our own level of comfort with covid risk, the week before I learnt of this plan she had become bubble buddy with another partner.

We discussed this and she understood that I was uncomfortable with her having multiple bubble buddies during lockdown, as per our previous agreement, which she stated she had forgotten about.

This morning I found out she had organised to visit her partner at her home and had assumed I just meant I was not okay with Sleepovers. As I only learned that she was visiting the home a couple hours before it occurred I did not feel like I was able to ask the plan to be changed to meet our covid safety agreement.

I now feel like my boundaries around keeping safe during this pandemic have been crossed and don't know if I can regain that safety, I am also quite upset about this and know that I will feel as though I am punishing her if I express being uncomfortable at future visits.

Due to also going through multiple breakups recently, I don't have a bubble buddy of my own and feel like this decision would never had been made with discussing with me if I was seeing someone else. I am however working from the office 2 days a week as a frontline Mental Health Worker in a Community Health Centre and am uncomfortable with the additional risk this puts on my co-workers and community members who use our service where I work.