Hi, I am 26 F bisexual, I am fairly new out of closet and to be honest dating woman is still a little scary and makes me nervous. About a month ago I opened to the idea of having a threesome with a couple, my thought process was it might ease me into dating women in future and in the same time have to new experiences and fun. I matched with one couple and went on a date, by the end of the night they told me they don't want just a threesome that they like me very much and if I would be open to longterm romantic relationship with them. As I never really had anything like that I said that we can try it. Meanshile I was a little confused with the couple, the guy was very open and seemed really into me but on the other hand the girl didn't really gave me the same energy by far. She seemed generally uninterested in me and talked only about their shared experience etc. This resulted in me being hyperaware and sensitive to this situation, cause I didn't want the girl to feel pressered into this relationship if she wasnt into me. We talked about it on one date and they assured me that she's very much interested just a little shy and introverted. That's fine by me, but her energy was still throwing my radar off a little still.

Last week after a another date we ended up having sex and it made me even more confused. The girl didn't engaged much with me apart from kissing, the guy did oral on me and then "penetrated" me for just few minutes but after that it was all only about them. They eneded up passinately hugging between each other meanwhile all I could do was to watch them or kiss one them a little. I didn't really mind but after when they fisnihed and it was clear nothing else is going to happen it made me feel kinda weird. Most of the time I was just thirdwheeling and I didnt have to be there. This all sucked even more because I was very open with them that this is my first threesome and I thought they would try to make it more pleasurable for me I guess. When I texted them the day after and I recieved very cold commnunication and their general consensus was that "if you didn't like something you should have said it back there, you can't complain now" and that they were just spontaneus and they didn't find anything wrong with how the evening was.

There has been a silence for almost 2 days from them and I really don't know where I stand. Please help me - is this normal behaviour? Is this how threesomes with couples should look like and how poly relationships should look like? Was I wrong to "complain" next day? I am really new into this stuff and really need some guidance.