I (26M) have been on a relationship with my gf (25F) for almost two years now.

We are polyamourous, she’s already dating other people, I am not, not because I am monogamous, but simply because COVID, social anxiety and stuff makes it harder for me to date, I am extremely fine with that.

I used to be jealous at first, because I’m a very insecure person, but we’ve been doing a lot of work together and I get along very well with her girlfriend.

However, despite being very secured and safe in my relationship, I still have spikes of jealousy whenever she starts dating new people. Nothing too serious, but noticeable. Even though I have no rational reasons to feel jealous and I know deep in my heart I’m actually pretty happy to see her thrive with new people and forging new fond relationships.

I just have this weird period of time where I need to adapt because I usually feel jealous during early days.

Do you have a trick or something that helps you deal with it ? I know it’s not meant to last, but these jealousy spikes tend to make me loopy sometimes and as much as I appreciate communication and honesty in a relationship, I don’t think I should ask my gf to reassure me everytime she starts dating someone. I’d like to deal with it on my own.