Okay so this is kind of a bomb that was recently dropped on my life so I'll try to keep it short and to the point. About two months ago I (F) started a poly relationship with my partner (M). We are serious about each other and even talked about kids. I had previously never been in poly relationships and am new to this whole thing. So obviously we've been working out the kinks and boundaries. Our hard rule is that everyone should be tested and no fluid bonding with anyone else. This week he drops something insane on me. Shortly before he met me, he had drunk sex with his best friend, whose relationship is otherwise platonic. The contraception they used and morning after pill didn't work and she's pregnant now. I am floored tbh. They will co-parent and he seems excited because he's at the time in his life where he's been thinking about and wanting kids. In that sense, Im super happy for him and think he'll make a great Dad.

Anybody go through this before and have any advice? I feel selfish for saying this, but my other thoughts honestly are that I'm sad that it's not with me and that he'll have less time to spend with me. But of course I'll be understanding of that when the time comes that he needs to be with his kid. I still want to be with him and work this out. Thanks.