As the title suggests, I'm tired of carrying all of the conversations with my most significant relationship. We only see each other a few times a month, but we chat almost daily. She tells me that she and I communicate as much or more than her other relationships and she leans on me the most when she's lonely or wants the feeling of companionship, and that seems true in most regards. But what bothers me is that she says that we don't have anything to talk about anymore ... where from my perspective she simply doesn't engage. I regularly bring up topics to discuss, share my thoughts and opinions, and then she'll respond with a few words or not at all.

Tonight she said she wanted to chat, so I brought up a number of topics, each one were things that she's expressed interest in. I gave her my thoughts about a few things and then asked her open-ended questions to get her take. "Not sure" was her reply. I brought up another topic and again she had only a few words in response, then eventually she stopped responding at all. I messaged that I thought she fell asleep, but replied that she didn't, but I didn't ask her a question so she didn't respond with one. I don't think it should be my responsibility to constantly carry conversations like this.

Tonight I was happy with our normal communication, but made an extra effort because she said she wanted to chat. If this were occasional I could understand. Maybe she's tired or feeling isolated and needs some prompting, but this has become the norm. When I follow up about it the next day she tells me that she wasn't feeling like she was withdrawn, just that we didn't have anything to talk about.

I feel like she doesn't appreciate the efforts that I make. It's much easier to talk to new people that you you're just getting to know because there are so many things you can learn about them, and I think that's what she's comparing our conversation to.

Any advice?