Hi! I (34F) have been practicing poly for nearly two years. It started as ENM and has progressed from there. I have been learning a lot about my own boundaries and found myself in some very hurtful and uncomfortable scenarios to myself and others. I am personally a mix of parallel and KTP. I currently have one partner (43M) who has another partner (~36F). My meta is more DADT.

We all work together. We do not work directly together majority of the time. We are all in different positions, on different teams and different levels of “authority”. Occasionally each of our duties cross paths with another. Meta is also a union rep. We are all aware of who each other are.

She has established with our shared partner that she and I can have contact for work and union related discussions. I would like to exchange personal contact info with meta for emergency situations. I also want to have a conversation with meta about boundaries at work and around union communication. I’ve asked our shared partner and there are some things he cannot answer and is struggling being in the middle. Obviously he knows this is his responsibility as hinge. He has asked me to reach out to meta directly to discuss boundaries between she and I further. I am worried this will come off as an overstep and do not want to cause any harm. I would love to have open communication with her though.

Am I in the wrong and/or how would you handle this situation?

(Edited to correct a grammar issue/sentence structure issue.)