Hello all,

I'm in a non-hierarchical relationship. We (61M, 44F, and me 34F) are all considered equally in the relationship. Problematically, "Rafael" (61M) works so much (80 hrs) and has kids and family which leaves him with only 3 hours a week for romantic relationships. "Katie" (44F) and I generally decide how time will be split between us, because we have more flexibility in our schedules and can make it work.

Things changed in the last month when Rafaels availability dropped from about 7 hours a week to 3. He's working more and doesn't see it changing in the future.

My question really is, I don't think I can have the relationship I want on 1 hour~ish a week. Do you see any other solution here that I'm not seeing?