4 years poly with my partner. They were already interested in the scene but hadn’t dated someone okay with it. I’d never heard of it.

I’ve had a few chance encounters but nothing that blossomed past people thinking with their groin.

Two of my friends dated my partner one even moved in but sadly both relationships didn’t work out and I ended up losing my connection with them in the fallout.

Last night I was up late with my partners friend and discovered we’re both Ace and I suggested cuddles and general physical affection.

It’s blown up a little today where I’ve been trying to understand why my partners upset and seems unhappy and talking about closing the relationship now we’re past our first four years. They know it’s platonic but is still wants to veto us hanging out again (not anything we’ve ever established). No boundaries have been crossed, it’s not even dancing a line but I can’t help feeling like I’ve made a mistake and would like some objectivity, would it be good to try meet in the middle and establish a new boundary or should I stand firm on it.