Is it too much to ask for a good night text on a metamour's "night?" Metamour are aware and are behind it. I know what monogamy tells me, but the poly thing changes it as far as I'm concerned. I have expressed in crystal cleaer terms that I want this, and that when I don't get one after being told I would, is upsetting on the verge of triggering my c-ptsd and rejection sensitive dysphoria (ADHD symptom).

It started out as a much bigger ask that I realized was too much and was just my insecurity trying to control my emotions and the situation. She expressed that when she was with her other metamours she did not want to be on her phone the whole time. She's not on it when she is with me so I know she's not lying to me. I'm also in complete agreement with that. I just want a good night text. Now I just want simple words of affirmation that she thinks about me when she's not with me too.

I have been told I'd get one. If this is rude to even ask I am/was unaware. This is my first (what I thought) successful foray into poly and I've been doing well at navigating the feelings of jealousy etc. Deconlonizing Poly so if this is some set in stone rule that I haven't found, please let me know. And it's not from lack of looking. I've been reading and lurking fora like this for the better part of a decade and have one failed attempt at poly under my belt from three years ago. I've felt I was poly since I was at least in my 20's and started dating seriously for the first time.

However, I have been doing well at being 100% open about my needs and boundaries for the first time in my life and I don't know what to do about this. lol.