So my partner Blair (22) and I (20) are medium distance. We’ve been together 5 months. They have a nesting partner Taylor (22) who they’ve been with for 5 years. This is all of our first experience w polyamory. It’s all a recipe for disaster I know. But I’m in love.

So Blair’s car broke down so it’s been even harder to get to each other lately. And they’re going on a trip soon back home so tonight was our (ONE) night together before they left in a couple days back home

More context, Blair and Taylor have been fighting. Their relationship is pretty rocky atm. I don’t know details.

When I asked Blair to stay the night tonight (a rare occasion bc my dad who I live with is out rn) they were weird and cagey and told me to stop asking. Which was weird we were having a great night.

Obviously I didn’t push it but it struck me as so strange, It hurts that Blair would sacrifice our little time together to work on their other relationship. But I also understand that this is stressing them out and they need to work it out. I hope they do.

I should note that I’m already concerned that Blair doesn’t have the emotional maturity to be polyamorous.

Mostly I’m disturbed they would lie to me about it. Make up some lame excuse. Honestly I don’t know if I trust the answer they did give me.

I need to know if I’m being a dumb 20yr old or if this is actually a red flag