(Apologies in advance if wrong subreddit)

My partner and I are very new and are dipping our toes into searching for partners for potential group sex.

I (32M) am not attracted to cis-men, and she/they (33NB) are not attracted to cis-women, so we are gravitating towards trans and non-binary people.

My question is: what is the most respectful way to go about finding potential partners? We want to find a partner that we both have a genuine connection with, but I’m still worried this could come off as chasing, and I would like to avoid that. Especially considering I am a cis-man and my partner is only recently out as identifying as NB, so I want to be mindful of not accidentally creeping on queer spaces.