Oh crud, I was thinking on what was already a bad day which probably wasn’t a good thing. Then had the thought “outside of time with my partner I don’t want to spend any time with my meta” Background. I am AuDHD to start, so sometimes I struggle with social interactions to begin with. I had considered myself friends with Sally (meta - not their real name). For the last week or so I’ve been really stuck on something they did at a group thing last week that just felt unnecessarily unkind and mean, like they were picking on me with ill intent. In thinking about kind of the full picture of my friendship with Sally, I realized this was not the first time I felt like they’d been cruel to me in some way. Considering that my brain went to we must not really be friends, if they’re cruel ever, why would I subject myself to Sally if I wasn’t even getting time with my partner out of the equation? I get that is pretty black and white thinking, but I can think of at least five occassions where something they said was cruel, mean, devastating, unnecessary, uncaring, just left me in a bad place for days. The first of which they never corrected or apologized for making me feel like absolute shit and knows that’s what happened. One of which happened outside of a day where our mutual partner was there. So giving them more opportunities to do so seems stupid? Another time was sort of treating me like a medical condition of which they are aware was a personal failing of some kind. I know also that no one is perfect, but really we don’t spend that much time together to begin with. I don’t really know if I should just let my partner know I intend to spend less time with Sally, and don’t want to spend time alone with Sally. I don’t know if that’s really a change from the KTP we have had, I can still be friendly with them while limiting that? Or is this more like going garden party? I don’t feel the need to go full parallel or anything like that right now. Advice on how to communicate where I’m at and what I need? I feel like I sort of lost a friendship because I don’t feel like friends do what they have and I thought we had been friends until now. Has anyone else dealt with this and how did it turn out?