I (nb31) spoke with my partner (25f) and her boyfriend (30m) about boundaries and what are hard yesses and no's for me personally, but also wanted their input on what they would both find to be out of line. This is all incredibly important to me and honestly I feel it should have happened a lot sooner as we all live together. When I mentioned that I would prefer PDA in common areas to be expressed equally is when shit hit the fan.

I am a possessive person, however, I have been in poly relationships before and have worked through the awkwardness of yearning when I am the one hanging out on my own. Yet all of us living together causes more issues in regards to not being able to get much 1-1 time with our hinge.

The bf proceeds to tell me that his boundaries are "no boundaries", that he doesn't care at all what I would do to our hinge even if in a common space during our times where we are all hanging out. Which to me is just ridiculous and posturing.

My partner then proceeds to pile onto this that they don't partake in any affections whatsoever while I am around as to spare my feelings.

To be fair, I am again an emotional and possessive person, yet I don't want them to particularly become completely chaste just because I happen to be around, I would just like it to not seem like anyone is playing favourites. I.E. if I was also shown similar affections at a different time even, I would feel that it was balanced, and I don't feel like that's a huge ask.

Near the end of the conversation, it did feel to me as if I was getting ganged up on, like I'm the only one that can feel jealousy or yearning.

I do however, feel as though my concerns were addressed, yet I don't necessarily feel like they were taken seriously. Either way, I'm sleeping alone tonight and am just at a bit of a loss. I thought the talking of boundaries, although not fun, would be illuminating and important, but I just feel like the irrational one now.

Not sure if I'm looking for advice or just venting at this point, but if you've read this far, thank you