I’m in a situation where I’m trying to be a good partner to my wife during a rough time with one of her partners. We’re both pretty new to this and like many others are trying to navigate our way through an open marriage. We both have partners but she’s seeing two at the moment. Her reasoning for two is that both have times where they’re not available vs my other partner being available consistently. I’ve said it bothers me but can’t seem to justify my feelings towards it in any reasonable manner so I decided to not argue about, overall her feelings about it matter just as much as mine.

Not sure if anyone else has ever been in my position or frame of mind where I unjustifiably for not any particular big reasons don’t care for one of my primaries partners other than they’re extra time away or some other petty reason I can come up with. It’s confusing to me as to why her having two vs my one bothers me in the first place…I’m living in a lifestyle where jealousy doesn’t seem to have a valid place anymore and know it’ll only lead to problems.

In this particular case the parter she’s having issues with is the meta I don’t care for. I want to be supportive but feel like I’m bias against the guy and for nothing besides his style.🤷‍♂️🤦‍♂️

So far I’ve taken the high road and haven’t said my negative opinions but it’s taking everything in me to do.

Does anyone else’s ever experience unjustified negative feelings like this or am I still a long way off from being 💯 open?