Hello, so I’m currently with my partner of 5 years. She told me from the day that we got together that she was poly and I accepted her. I knew I was monogamous and I told her that. We also got married last year. She hasn’t really found anyone else that has given the same amount of attention as she’s given them until recently. The relationship came out of nowhere and moved so fast that it send me into a wave of confused and hurt emotions. A lot of it went like her saying that she doesn’t want a relationship or that she didn’t want to have sex with them or kiss them. Within less than all of those things happened. I asked her if she could move a little slower and she said that she couldn’t help it and that her feeling for them is so intense that she doesn’t want to slow down. I started feeling depressed, angry, confused, and alone. On top of that, I don’t like the other person, they enjoy doing things that both of us are very much against, which just confuses me more on why she is so obsessed with them. She reassured me that she loves me and that the feeling I give her is feeling of safe and homey. I just don’t know if what im feeling is rational or fair. I’ve talked to her about all of this and it’s really just met with I need to find a way to be okay and cope with my feelings. Is there anything I can do or am I just being irrational?