So, my wife is getting more serious about her boyfriend, which I fully support. He’s a great guy, we get along well, good dynamic. We’re talking about the logistics of him moving in, possibly having kids, etc. I’m mostly looking for practical advice of managing the unusual logistics of having an extra romantic partner actively in the house.

Some things I’m aware of:

-He and I will need a really good dynamic. We’ll probably need to spend time together to work on communication and friendship as we’ll be pretty directly sharing my wife’s time.

-We will need a larger bed. Cuddling fun, but a Queen won’t cut it.

-If they want kids, I’m all for it.

I’m more concerned with questions like:

-How do we introduce ourselves at parties? Or to our parents?

-I’ve heard of setting up a “corporation” to share finances, benefits, and handle end-of-life issues. I have no idea what that looks like.

-How do you handle housework?

-This feels like a circumstance that will require therapy “check-ins.” Has anyone approached this situation that way before? Any preparation for how to think about the issue?

I’m excited about this chapter of life, but I’m an anxious planner, so I’m anxious planning so I can feel confident in my ideas before I bring them up to everyone. Am I missing anything?