Hi folks. I'm new here.

My spouse (M33) and I (M31) are very happy together. We have jobs, a house, cars, kids etc. Living the happily ever after lifestyle. I should stop there, right?

Well, I'm Bisexual. I've had the poly fantasy of having a bf and a gf at the same time for... well... a long time. I wrote it off as an untenable fantasy, monogamy is way easier, and left it at that. Tonight we were just chatting and somehow ended up on this topic and he said plainly that he would be okay with me seeing other people. He's said it before too. I've always ignored it because I thought he was joking. But he isn't. So now I'm intrigued.

The problems are: I'm bi, which has plenty of stigma surrounding it. I'm in a committed relationship, I have kids. I'm not 6'2", six pack abs, driving a Ferrari with a billion dollars in the bank. That's what women in the dating scene want these days, right? Should I even bother trying to get back into dating? My brother is straight, single, in shape, and some of the stories I've heard are... discouraging.

Dating scene aside, my relationship with my spouse comes first. I do not want to jeopardize it. I want to establish healthy rules and boundaries in the event I do actually pursue this... what resources can I be pointed toward? I have a copy of The Ethical Slut and one other book I'm going to read again.

Thanks for reading.