I'm new to the world of online dating. I've never been on a relationship before, but I've known for years that I'm poly (I confirmed it when I developed feelings for more than one person at once). I still don't know how would it be in practice, but I don't like the idea of "choosing one" and all other monogamy things.

I already know that being clear about it is the key, and I'll make sure my profile doesn't led to confusion. The thing is, I'm open to different kind of relationships: long-term romantic relationships (with or without sex), different kind of hookups, friendships...

For those unfamiliar with this app, you can set your profile to "monogamous", "non-monogamous" and "open to either". Depending on your choice, you can only see and be seen by users that have the same setting or that are open to either ("open to either" can see and be seen by everyone).

That said, to look for friends with similar interests, they don't need to be poly. For noncommittal sex, it's probably irrelevant if the other person is monogamous. But I'd like to avoid possible misunderstandings with those monogamous people that only want a monogamous romantic relationship even if they have the option of "new friends" or "hookups" on their profile. Like, I don't want to give them chances to develop romantic feelings for me when I reject the idea of being committed to a single person (even if I end up never developing feelings for anyone else).

What do you think it's the most ethical thing to do? I'm very new to this, so please understand where I'm coming from and correct me if my approach is wrong.

• Set that I'm open to both monogamy and non-monogamy to get profiles from mono people that might interest me for a sexual or platonic relationship (if they have those in their "looking for" section).
• Set that I'm only open to non-monogamy, which results in less profiles, but don't waste the time of monogamous people that might like my profile only to discover that I'm actually not open to monogamy in a romantic relationship.

EDIT: I'm also worried about developing romantic attraction to monogamous people. I get crushes very easily and it would be a problem if I fell for them... I think it's safer to stick to only "non-monogamous" so any feelings can flow from both parts without being an issue.