So my fiance who I will be referring to as A (xe/xem), started seeing a girl awhile back who I will call M (she/her) (Also, for context M is the Abuser). A few months after they had been together M and I met and hit it off almost immediately, a few weeks later M asked me out (with my A's permission of course) and we started dating. Well A and I had been looking for a new place to stay and were in between housing, so M suggested that we stay with her to give us more time to look while we were in between housing. I thought it would be fine because it was only going to be temporary and M and I had been together for a month at that point while A had been with her for almost 6 months.

That's when things slowly started getting off. M started saying that we should just move in permanently cause it would be easier since my partner and I don't have great credit or rental history so finding a place has been difficult. Neither A or I agreed to it and instead just kept telling her that we want a different space because M has cats which A is allergic to and that the space was too small for our 3 dogs. If we don't surgar coat everything she gets super upset which was red flag #1. More red flags started happening when it turned into only A and I doing the house work, cooking, grocery shopping, and taking care of M's cats. A and I also both work full time jobs while M has her mom pay for her rent because she has backpain from an old job and doesn't want to deal with disability. These things lead A and I to trying to find another place to stay while we searched for housing but we haven't found anything and with 3 dogs it's really hard to find a friend to stay with (they aren't why we don't have housing though because 2 are service dogs and one is a retired service dog who is now an ESA for housing purposes).

I really got along with my metas through M and I thought it might be good to bring it up with one of them who I trust that I will call G (fae/faer), just to see if there was a better way to talk to M about some of these issues since G knows M a bit better since they've been together longer. G agreed that fae was noticing some of this too and tried to help me talk to M, but this only lead to M getting upset and going to another state with some friends for a week leaving A and I to take care of her cats.

That's when her extreme jealousy started. M has another partner who I will call D(it/its), she has asked me a thousand times what I think about D and every time I tell her that D is pretty cool. Eventually this turned into her asking if I was interested in D which I always responded saying that D wasn't really my type. Well New Years Eve rolls around and D was there and happened to sit down next to me while M was in the other room, when M came into the room D moved and sat next to M on the other side of the room. I had been playing a game on my phone when I suddenly started getting spammed with messages from M saying I was hogging D and that I was trying to steal D from M. I tried to reassure her that I wasn't and that D had just sat next to me, but she insisted that it wasn't just that night, it was all the time that I was always hogging D and trying to steal it. None of this made sense to me because I don't interact with D much when it's over and we barely talk, so I ended up just sitting in the other room for the night with A because I didn't know how to not make things worse.

Well the next week I had been planning to hang out with my meta G because we've become good friends, this was pre-planned and M had been aware and OK with it. The day before G and I were supposed to go out M started complaining to me that I was trying to steal all of her partner and that I shouldn't be going out to dinner with one of her partners. I told her that G and I were only going out as friends and that she had nothing to worry about and that it wasn't unusual for metas to be friends and is actually a healthy part of a polyamorous relationship, she agreed to let me go but still seemed upset. At dinner with G I let fae know what had happened at New Years Eve and what had happened the night before. G was super upset about this because any time G's other partner gets even slightly jealous about anything M is always the first to call it abusive and say that G should leave their other partner. Dinner went great outside of that and I got to know G more which was awesome cause I thought it would be super nice to finally have a friend to go to museums with that my other friends found boring.

Sadly the next day M threw a fit insisting yet again that I was trying to steal her partners, I asked her if there was anything I was doing in particular that was triggering her jealousy or if there was anything I could do to help. She basically told me that me interacting with her other partners in any way (aside from A who im engaged to) has been upsetting her. She then basically asked me to not talk to D or G anymore and to ask permission if I ever planned on doing so. I've been feeling super lost after that and idk what to do, I haven't talked to G since and hide in another room anytime G or D come over because I'm scared M will get super upset.

Today D was over though and I had to walk out to grab food, I tried to avoid D as much as possible but D started asking me questions and tryto talk to me. M wasn't around so I was trying to answer as short as possible, I think D noticed something was off cause it asked if something was wrong. I quickly said that M didn't really want me talking to her partners anymore and D just kinda rolled it's eyes at me. I don't think D believes me at all.

Im now terrified that M may have told D and G something to try to make me seem like a bad person. I'm scared neither of them will believe me about the abuse. I want to talk to G about it because I feel like fae might understand and have some insight on the situation, but im scared to talk to fae because it could upset M.

This whole situation has made both A and I super uncomfortable, we have no where to go and no idea what to do. We make too much to qualify for housing programs, but have been turned down from pretty much every rental or leasing company in the city due to poor credit and rental history.

Any advice on ways to help get out of this situation or to at least lessen the terribleness until then? Thanks in advance, also sorry if this was wordy and doesn't make much sense. I'm just really anxious rn