It started when I (f24) started see this girl (f23) in 2019 and I really liked her, and she liked me back. But there was another guy (m23) who she’s known forever, and I could tell they had some unresolved feelings. So I stepped back.
They got together and I stuck around as her friend. It worked until we realised we still had feelings for each other, but she still loved her now boyfriend. We’re both bisexual and we discussed joining as a throuple/triad.
We decided to give it a shot in 2020, and it went really well, we gelled together and I believe there was real feelings there.
Until there was too much jealousy, insecurities and lack of communication, and we decided to end it. After months of attempting to keep it casual, it happened again (2021), we tried working on our problem areas, but it was me who ended it this time, I felt less of an equal and more like a third wheel at times.
They were the stronger couple. The other girl and I had our bond from being friends, but the guy and I hadn’t been able to grow as close, because when we tried doing things alone, it bothered her, though she tried denying it did. We’ve since worked on our friendship and him and I are closer now.
There are obviously still feelings there, but I don’t know if it’s worth trying again, if we’re capable of working through our issues. There’s potential for something great, and I’m in love with them. A new revaluation for me. I don’t know what to do, I think an outside opinion might help.
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