I met this girl about over a week ago online, we at first met as RP buddies for a story based RP but eventually we got on really good terms in the friendship considering how open we both where about liking eachothers company and wanting more of it.

Eventually this evolved into us both openly admitting to liking eachother and us doing pretty intimate things, well as intimate as two people online could be. Basically we both really liked talking to eachother and doing these things together, and we where both pretty verbal about that. We also occasionally talked about some things like how she didn't want to be ghosted by people so I assured her I would never ghost her unless she permanently didn't want me around anymore.

Throughout it all she never actually voiced any concerns or told me if she was unhappy with me or not, infact she would imply the opposite on multiple occasions which was pretty endearing at the time.

I made it clear throughout our friendship that I just wanted her to be happy and I'm legit good with whatever she wants to do.

We both finally discuss the elephant in the room and acknowledged our 'liking' for eachother, we discussed if we wanted an online relationship and at first she said she did, despite this I didn't want to rush into things too quickly and wanted to make sure there was no potential miscommunication or heartbreak in the end on both sides.

I asked her if she wanted to be committed and she said no, we spoke about this further and she admitted to being willing to break up with me if there was people available IRL which was kinda low key disheartening. We spoke more about it since I didn't want to misunderstand what she meant just in case it was a misunderstanding and she basically said she didn't want the long distance to be forever so I saw it as "that's fine just she wants to see me eventually which is perfectly understandable" and so I planned some potential ideas for if she wanted to get together, I didn't want any letdowns on both sides if I just decided to stay where I am all my life.

I really wanted to make it work and I made that pretty open to her but was just happy to be friends, we both subconsciously agreed to just be friends and she wanted time to think about the idea of us becoming a thing, and due to use both agreeing that the conversation was tense (mainly due to the subject we where discussing) so we took a day break from talking to think about stuff (I was perfectly fine with longer but she only wanted a day I believe?).

Throughout all this she never voiced or shown obvious signs that she was unhappy or uncomfortable, even coming off as pretty casual and still wanting to just have fun after the conversation before the break.

After the break she comes back and says she's thought about it, but she doesn't want a relationship and wants to keep it casual which was perfectly fine by me, as long as we where still friends since I thought she was a great person to chat to anyways and I lost interest in a relationship myself because if she wasn't interested I was obviously not interested in a one sided thing.

I will admit I was kinda down about it but only asked if we where cool after the discussion a day or two ago and if she was happy to just be friends and she agreed, I was down aswell at the time for other reasons but eventually we discussed a new story based RP and what the lore would be before calling it a night.

The next day I receive a paragraph from her claiming I "forced" her to love me and how she was annoyed that I made her feel bad because she couldn't promise me anything (I didn't want her to promise me anything, at most I just wanted commitment IF we got into a relationship since that's what's needed in a relationship for it to work and then just wanted to make sure we where still friends afterwards). To be clear I did not force her to love me I just made it clear that I want it to work as long as she did aswell but was happy with just be friends, and she didn't show any issues with anything throughout our friendship for me to work on if I found out about them.

She also said I overplanned things even though she was basically saying she didn't want the relationship to forever be long distance, so I wanted to have a plan in my head about such a big thing as potentially moving country in a few years....

I feel terrible that I made her feel this way but she didn't even vocalize any of her issues at first and now she's blocked me, I want to know if I was the issue here?

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